Yesterday I had my first shift as a Support Worker at a Recovery House; it was both exhausting and fascinating.
I arrived for 8am, which was when the night staff give us the hand-over on each individual staying at the house, how their night went, etc. so that we know how everyone is feeling in the morning. Then myself and a colleague went around each room at 9am to say hello to everyone, even if that’s just a sleepy grunt, and give some people their morning medication. The rest of the day was spent checking various inconsistencies (one lady had much less medication left than we would have expected given how much she is supposed to take), or issues (to do with housing, mis-remembered doctors appointments…). We also keep regularly checking-in on everyone, and take notes throughout of everything that happens so that we can then hand over that info to the night staff that will follow us when we leave at 9pm.
One of the most interesting parts of the day for me was shadowing a 1-on-1 chat between my colleague and a service user who had only recently come to the house, and listening to how we first get a sense of the individual joining us – what they are struggling with, what they hope to achieve, what particularly distresses them, and general background information…To be totally honest, the conversation was heartbreaking. What seemed to be the major problem for the service user, apart from her mental health difficulties (which were being relieved somewhat by medication, I think), was her lack of social networks. She said that she had no friend or family member who was there for her outside of the house. The only person ‘in her life’ was her Care Co-Ordinator. That must be so frightfully painfully lonely and horrible. I don’t think many of us can even imagine what it must be like to have literally no one that we could turn to if we were ever in a difficult situation (aunts, friends from school, neighbours…). And, in a cruel turn of fate, it is as if having that support network there is even enough to prevent us from actually needing them. I think that the very fact that we know that they are there, is enough to comfort us and stop us slipping into a spiral wherein we really need to rely on them.
In talking to this woman I suddenly realised how powerful those invisible support networks (and, of course, the less invisible ones that we get joy and love from on a regular basis) are to our mental health and stability. Her affect felt completely hopeless, and I really felt and shared her suffering as I listened to it.
Since the ‘social networks’ box that my colleague ticked seemed to be the major problem, (I must add that I really didn’t like the very obviously ‘structured’ interview style that we were doing, I understand that it is useful to quickly measure and compare over time, but it felt inhumane and insensitive when discussing such intimate difficulties.) – she tried to suggest ‘ways to improve’, such as to hang out in the lounge or kitchen more, and get to know other service users, or join one of the activities that the house runs like yoga or a film night.
These are all great ideas, but, to me it almost felt too soon to ask this lady to ‘get out a bit more’. I would have wanted to talk to her a bit more personally first, try to understand what kinds of things she as an individual could imagine enjoying doing, get a little bit more of a sense of herself first, so that she wouldn’t feel overwhelmed and incompetent while trying to socialise. I say this because she really struggled to even look either of us in the eye during the conversation. Though, actually, trying to socialise could probably only help, and maybe she would be pleasantly surprised by the ease with which everyone seems to get along in the house. So, both efforts could be used at once, I think. And of course my own presence probably didn’t help the conversation, as I was just awkwardly sitting there watching. A genuinely 1-on-1 conversation would have been easier for everyone involved.
So, those were my first day thoughts! I am very very much looking forward to getting comfortable with all the admin-stuff of the house, the millions of forms to fill, and which keys open which doors, etc., so that I can concentrate fully on providing the best possible service to the residents. Will keep you updated.